Comments on: Life as an at Home Mom

By: FoxxyLadie

FoxxyLadie — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 18:12:41 +0000

I know...this is the one topic that gets to me the most. I think its just that in life everyone wants to know they have a purpose and its frustrating when rude people throw rude comments in your face about you being worthless.

I hope my last comment didnt make you feel like I was attacking you personally. Tell your wife I think its great what she does and to hang in there!

By: Jim (txshurricane)

Jim (txshurricane) — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 18:03:29 +0000

I'm surprised that after two kids, something like that would get to you so bad.

By: Foxxyladie

Foxxyladie — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 22:51:00 +0000

Thanks, James!

Jim- I understand that your wife is probably stressed and over-worked with being a mom and having a nursing job. I understand things could be worse for me. What I am getting at is that its no picnic being an at home mom/dad. Its a full time job in itself and it doesnt make things any easier when your constantly having people criticize you for being able to or wanting to raise your children instead of sending them to a daycare. Most of all what I am trying to say is that I am not worthless for being an at home mom and that I'm tired of people acting like its a competition.

By: smurph

smurph — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 22:31:38 +0000

@James: You're actually not the only at-home dad I know. My old boss when I was in college stays home while his wife teaches (can't remember what age).

I think having a parent home with the kids is invaluable. I know it's stressful for Erika but that's why she gets messages every night .

You're doing a great job babe, and I really appreciate it. Don't let everyone give you shit <3

By: Jim (txshurricane)

Jim (txshurricane) — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 21:59:50 +0000

My wife is a full-time nurse and still keeps our 2,600-sq-ft house clean and 18-mo-old daughter taken care of, for the most part (excluding daycare, of course). She wishes she could be an at-home mom so that she won't have to work so hard.

I guess it depends on your point of view. From a retail or restaurant job to an at-home mom may be a step up in stress and hard work, but there are worse things. Easy, no. Easier, sure.

By: James (justabaldguy)

James (justabaldguy) — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 21:48:43 +0000

Great post Erika, and you let 'em have it easy! You left out a ton of other duties.

This is yet another area where our culture is backwards compared to the rest of the world: the at home dad! I understand that some people still can't understand why one would want to be an at home mom, but at home dad? They look at you like you're lazy. We're catching up on the differences between women and men in most work places but now I have more in common with other moms than guys my age...